How to Control Impulsive Behavior

Everyone acts impulsively from time to time. But for some people, impulsivity happens often and can affect their work, relationships, and well-being. This can also lead to feelings of guilt and regret.  If you relate to the second group, here’s the good news: recognizing your impulsivity is the first step to impulsive behavior control. There are many ways to manage impulsive behavior and gain better control over your decisions.

In this article, we’ll go over what impulsive behavior is and why it happens. We’ll also introduce you to impulsive control strategies, explain how to control impulsive behavior, and discuss when to seek further help.

What is Impulsive Behavior?

The American Psychological Association (APA) defines impulsivity as “behavior characterized by little or no forethought, reflection, consideration of the consequences of an action, particularly one that involves taking risks.”  Examples include making an expensive purchase on a whim, interrupting others, and driving recklessly.

Because impulsivity and spontaneity both involve quick decision making, they’re often compared. But they’re not the same. Spontaneity is usually associated with freedom and pleasure, such as switching up your route on a road trip or doing something that scares you, such as going down a waterslide without taking the time to overthink it. But impulsive decision making usually results in guilt or regret.

As humans, we’re driven by our emotions and can prefer immediate gratification. For this reason, we all engage in impulsive behavior from time to time.  But some people, due to various reasons, act impulsively more often or take bigger risks.

Common Types of Impulsive Behavior

The first step to controlling impulsive behavior is to recognize it. Common types of impulsive behavior include:

• Emotional impulsivity, such as sudden angry outbursts, quitting a job without weighing the consequences, or frequently interrupting others
• Behavioral impulsivity, such as binge eating, making purchases and regretting them later, or switching between tasks without finishing them
• Financial, relationship, or risk-taking behaviors such as gambling large amounts, engaging in unsafe sex, or driving recklessly

Why Impulsivity Happens

Some people are more prone to impulsive behavior than others. This can be due to brain and nervous system factors, such as neurotransmitter imbalances. Researchers have also found that impulsive behavior may have a genetic link and some personality types are more prone to being impulsive than others.

People are more likely to make impulsive decisions when they feel overwhelmed, stressed, or sleep-deprived. Certain substances, such as alcohol, can also make you more likely to act impulsively. 

Mental Health Conditions Linked to Impulsivity

Some mental health conditions are associated with impulsive behavior. These include:

• Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
• Mood disorders, such as bipolar disorder, anxiety, and depression
• Trauma-related conditions, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Immediate Techniques to Stop Impulsive Actions

Stopping impulsive behavior in the moment involves being more present and delaying decision-making.

Pause-and-Delay Strategies

Pause-and-delay techniques are among the most effective impulsive control strategies because they create space between an urge and an action.

This helps you manage your emotions and consider the possible outcomes. One way to do this is using the ten-minute rule, where you set a timer for 10 minutes.

Many people find it helpful to do something to regulate their emotions during this time, such as practicing mindfulness or going for a short walk. When the 10 minutes are up, revisit the urge.

At this time, you can decide if it’s a good idea to act or if you should let it pass. Other pause-and-delay strategies include counting to 10 before speaking in a conversation or “sleeping on it,” where you delay major decisions until the next day.

The STOP skill taught in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) can also be helpful for managing impulses:

‍Stop: Pause and don’t react immediately

Take a step back: Remove yourself from the trigger. For example, a person triggered by an argument could remove themselves from the argument.

Observe: Notice your thoughts, feelings, and sensations without trying to fix them.

Proceed mindfully: Think about the consequences of your actions and choose a healthier response or coping skill. 

Grounding and Regulation Tools

Mindfulness, which involves focusing on the present moment and accepting feelings without judgement, has been shown to help create non-reactivity. One way to practice mindfulness is with breathing techniques.

A popular breathing technique is 4-7-8 breathing. To do this, you’ll inhale through your nose for a count of four, hold it for a count of 7, and then exhale through your mouth for a count of 8. 

Physical grounding and sensory interruption techniques can also help engage you in the present moment.

Physical grounding means connecting with your surroundings. You can do this by feeling your feet on the floor or by tensing and then relaxing your muscles. Sensory interruption techniques help to engage your senses so that you are better able to focus on the given moment. Holding an ice cube or sucking on a piece of sour candy are some frequently recommended sensory interruption techniques.

Long-Term Strategies to Reduce Impulsivity

Long-term strategies support impulsive behavior control by reducing how often impulsive urges arise and improving emotional regulation over time.

Emotional Awareness Skills

Emotional awareness helps you to recognize and understand your emotions. It isn’t always easy to identify your emotions when you’re feeling overwhelmed. But taking the time to journal after an intense reaction or impulsive behavior can help you better understand what was going on at that time. Write down what happened, what you were thinking, and what you were feeling.

Try to name the specifics, such as frustrated, anxious, or hurt, rather than using broad terms like stressed. Over time, you’ll be able to notice patterns and gain a better understanding of what emotions or situations are triggering your impulsive behavior.

Once you have a better understanding of your triggers, you can work to manage them to reduce impulsivity. You can avoid some triggers, such as spending time with a certain group of people.

For others, you can set up roadblocks to slow you down. For example, if you’re trying to manage impulsive online shopping, you could remove saved payment details and keep your credit card in a separate location. 

Cognitive and Behavioral Techniques

Cognitive and behavioral techniques involve working with your thoughts and behavior. Thought challenging helps you learn to identify negative thoughts and replace them with more balanced ones. When you notice a negative thought, write it down. Then, challenge it by asking yourself:

• What is the evidence for and against the thought?
• Are you catastrophizing or assuming the worst?
• Is it a fact or an opinion?
• What would you tell a friend in the same situation?
• Are you ignoring other information?

Then, replace the thought with a more balanced one.

Habit replacement is another technique that involves replacing unwanted behaviors with positive ones. For example, someone who frequently interrupts others could take 3 deep breaths before speaking. Over time, the new habits will replace the old ones.

When Impulsivity Signals a Deeper Issue

For some people, impulsivity can be the sign of a mental health condition or a deeply ingrained behavior that can be hard to stop on your own. Seeking professional help can help with reducing impulsive behavior more quickly and teach you skills to manage this behavior.

Signs Professional Help May Be Needed

Professional help may be needed if impulsive behavior is having an impact on your personal safety, impacting your work or relationships, or interfering with your daily wellbeing. 

If you’ve been trying to control your impulse behavior and emotions but haven’t been able to, this is a good sign to seek help. It’s also a good idea to seek help if your impulsive behavior becomes more intense or more frequent.

Therapy and Treatment Options

There are a number of treatment options for impulsive behavior. Both cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) can help. CBT helps you see how your thoughts, feelings, and actions connect. DBT focuses on skills such as mindfulness, distress tolerance, and emotional regulation. It also helps improve relationships. 

In some situations, medication may be appropriate, particularly when impulsivity is linked to an underlying mental health condition and therapy alone is not sufficient.

Takeaway

Everyone can be impulsive from time to time. But if your impulsivity is leaving you feeling guilty or you’re noticing that you can’t control your impulsive behavior despite trying, learning impulsive control strategies can help.

This includes learning to identify and manage your emotions, as well as how to be grounded in the present moment.

Keep in mind that learning to control impulsive behavior is a skill-building process and change doesn’t happen overnight. Progress often looks like taking short pauses before acting, having fewer regrets, and recovering more quickly from impulsive decisions rather than perfection.

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